Wrecked

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I don’t think it’s exaggerating to say that college sexual assault has reached epidemic levels in the US. The ridiculous bureaucracy with which it’s often dealt is no doubt a contributing factor. However, it’s also a complex tangle of patriarchal ideas, well-meaning but sometimes misguided advocates, survivor guilt, and lack of effective education. On the … Read more

Lady Liberty, Weeping in the Dark

For a few hours last night, the Statue of Liberty was cloaked in darkness. Some saw it as a mere unremarkable power outage, others viewed it as painfully ironic social commentary sent straight from the heavens. The timing could not have been more apropos, coming on the eve of International Women’s Day as well as … Read more

What We’re Teaching Our Sons and Our Daughters

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Every time I accidentally see the news or someone’s ridiculous protestations that Donald Trump isn’t so very bad, that song “I wasn’t born with enough middle fingers” gets stuck in my head. It seems he’s gone from insulting the looks of women who’ve come forward with accusations of his groping, wormy hands (as if being … Read more

5 Reasons Why Women Shouldn’t Serve in the Military

1. Woman have different hygienic needs. Not gonna lie, when I first heard guys claiming this, I was confused. What does it meannnn? I’m talking total Vegas blackout, Mike-Tyson’s-tiger-in-your-hotel-room level of confusion. However, I’ve since embraced it. What they’re referring to is the V. The vag. The vajayjay. The gorgina. Our girly parts. All kinds … Read more

I Woke Up Like This

No, this isn’t a post about how Beyonce killed it at the VMAs. Sorry, Bey. This isn’t a post about messy-haired morning selfies or claiming your flawlessness at any time of day. This is about something more sinister: the state so many young women seem to be waking up in lately, bruised and broken, in … Read more

An Ode to Rape Culture

Last night I watched Hick,  a probably little-seen indie film from 2011. This isn’t going to be a movie review, though the film itself wasn’t bad. It feels a little scattered in places, which I attribute to it being based on a book, as if they just filmed some scenes without the further exposition and … Read more

I’ve Been Outta My Mind A Long Time.

I try to avoid the news, and especially any comment sections on the news, because I don’t have time to cry and eat Häagen-Dazs every day. Somehow in the last little while I’ve still managed to come upon some shiny gems of wisdom. Misogyny is justified because women are vapid whores who won’t give up … Read more

You Will Get What You Deserve.

I was replying to a thought-provoking post on Facebook and ended up holding forth at great length, so I thought I should write about it here as well. To sum up, a lady was saying that while growing up she had bought into the slick magazine version of sexiness, of putting her body on display … Read more

Give Me A Call When You Decide You’re Willing To Fight.

This is a shout-out to the mommies who decide to set their daughters’ molesters on fire. I’ve seen so much dithering, mush-mouthed nonsense on this subject over the last few days, I absolutely want to puke. You know what? Sometimes trying to be a paragon of fairness and rational thought just doesn’t cut it. Sometimes … Read more